Comments on: Finding My Laotong

By: Comorbid

Comorbid — Sun, 25 Dec 2011 07:11:34 +0000

Their relationship is so beautiful. As a human being I can empathize with their pain. Life has many challenges, and it’s hard to live in this cruel world. Having a companion is something all humans need in order to live harmoniously. I have a relationship similar to that of Laotong. I believe in fate, and she is my fate. We came together as sisters through hardship. I was young and hated the world for taking away my chance to have a normal life. I tried desperately to push her away, but she saw through me. She saw my pain and loneliness. She made me see her as a person by showing me her pain. When I saw her I loved her and I gave her my heart. Our trust in each other is absolute, and the most beautiful relationship I have in my life. The relationship we have is something you can’t describe, and can only be felt. Like Laotong we have a secret language, but it isn’t spoken. We learned to speak with our faces. One look could tell a story that only we understand. Sometimes we get mistaken for lovers on the streets because of our open affection for one another. I think what we have is better than the relationship of lovers. I’ve had many lovers, but I’ll never have another like her. People fall out of romantic love, but I’ll never stop loving her, never stop needing her. So, if that is what a Laotong is She will forever be my Laotong.

By: Raise the Red Lantern | Static-Romance.Org

Raise the Red Lantern | Static-Romance.Org — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 18:29:57 +0000

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By: Spring Girl Chan

Spring Girl Chan — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:20:42 +0000

Laotong is a very tradional thing which was carried out in China for girls as they cannot go to school and so it is hard to find friends. In order to have comparionship, mothers do match swornsisters or laotong to their daughters. It is a great idea to have laotong. Unforturnately, in today’s society, we will never follow this dream as having a laotong.
The world circumstances has changed the human ways of living and even today, in China, I believe, there is either no such things going on or very few. It is sad as it is a nice and warm tradition. But a piece of friendly advice to those people who feels lonely…the best laotong you ever have is yourself in today’s world because “Men” fails “men” or if you are religious, the best laotong, is your “Father in Heaven”. For when one relies on Him, one may be alone but never lonely. Only when one relies on human being that one will feel lonely.
Yes, Snow Flower and the Secret Fan is a lovely, heart breaking story. But it is a novel and a lovely novel to read but not to live in it. Not in today’s world. So, be good to yourself and those around, just to make the world a better place for all to live in.

By: sleepyjane

sleepyjane — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 12:20:12 +0000

I totally agree with this post. Watching shows or reading books that speak of friendships like that makes me sad. I've never had that kind of friendship. You're going into my reader. ;) .-= sleepyjane´s last blog ..Not that kind of label =-.

By: Becky

Becky — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 11:56:14 +0000

I've been looking for a new book to read, I hope that my local library has this, your review makes it sound like it's a really good read. Do I have any friends who I would consider to be a laotong? A friend who I would have considered giving this title to before has been drifting away, it has been happening during the whole summer and with university coming up I don't think that we'll ever be that close again. I hope to one day have a friend like that, someone who I can trust fully and who can fully trust me, I envy people who have friends like that too. And have I had bad experiences with friendships? Yes, but I think that we all have. Friends turning their back on me, lying, not being trustworthing, etc. But they were experiences, and I'm glad that I had them, as it made me more aware of what people can be like. .-= Becky´s last blog ..Guess who’s back? =-.

By: Angel

Angel — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 03:44:35 +0000

In reply to Jaime. You should definitely give it a read. It's wonderful.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 22:23:33 +0000

I have an awful time reading things like that, because I feel so lonely. I'm much better than I have ever been in my life (with all of two and a half friends), but I have most definitely never had a laotong friendship. .-= Stephanie´s last blog ..Back to school… =-.

By: Krissy

Krissy — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 19:44:39 +0000

I love this concept. It sounds so wonderful to have someone so close to you for a lifetime. Personally, I don't think I'll ever have that sort of relationship. I've never really been very close to anyone before; I guess I'm just a very distant person. .-= Krissy´s last blog ..Just A Minute… In September 2009 =-.

By: Jaime

Jaime — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 18:04:35 +0000

I've been wanting to read this book since last year when my aunt told me about it. .-= Jaime´s last blog ..“What If?” Wednesday {NaBloPoMo 16} =-.

By: Nina

Nina — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 17:59:31 +0000

Well, you don’t need to be living next to someone in order to maintain your friendship… I think it’s OK to have friends that are far away from your home! And yes, you might not be as close as you were before, but real friends stick together when things get tough… You know?!

Do you have any friends that you consider close enough to be a laotong? Have you had any bad experiences with friendships? Yes, I do. Well, I guess so… There was this one friend who was constantly spreading “rumors” behind my back, and when I confronted her, she denied it completely, which made me really angry because she was lying to my face, if she told me the truth, I would’ve probably accepted it!!

Peace.